Being Single: Can I Marry Someone I Know Is Not Born-again?

Being Single: Can I Marry Someone I Know Is Not Born-again? (Question from Someone)

In the Old Testament, God was explicitly clear (very clear terms) to Israel that they should never marry certain tribes, in reading the entire Old Testament, we realize that it was not about the tribe, but about who that tribe Worship – we see Ruth and Rahab (both not Jews) in the lineage of Christ, so it is about who is worshiped – Solomon paid dearly for disobeying God (see 1 Kings 11).

The same fate that befall Solomon, awaits anyone who knowingly marry someone that he/she knows is not a true believer or is not born-again.

In my years of ministry, I have many who have married a good guy or good girl (moralist, humanist or religious person), because of age and other pressures of life, yet they end up regretting that decision, just a few years into marriage. As I have shared, a few times, what saved my marriage was the fact that in-spite of being emotionally drained, we both knew God’s word on divorce and was willing to die to self and let God.

Many have pointed to prophet Hosea as their example, my answer is, if God has given you such instructions as clearly as He gave Hosea, then you better obey God, but more often in the New Testament, God rarely contradicts Himself (as we have the Word and the Holy Spirit). Instead of rushing into marriage, because of your age or to have a baby before your biological clock go beyond reach, why not trust God and get busy with His call on your life.

I pray God’s strength for you.